introspection, Society

It’s Your World, We’re All Just Living in It

No, the world is not out to get you. You are out to get yourself. This doesn’t mean you should slack off on your responsibilities, but it does mean that you should act and then surrender the issue. Worrying and anxiety are fruitless endeavors, because what is going to happen is going to happen. We live in a world with a barrage of options, choices, and subsequently decisions. Decisions are the actions that you take which will lead to either seemingly beneficial or negative consequences. Consistent thoughts form beliefs which drive your actions. If you need a refresher, check out this previous post of mine.

Thoughts –> Beliefs –> Actions –> Consequences

This world is unique, and designed for you to succeed.

The world that we live is a manifestation of your POV, not multiple people. When you live life for you, you should never feel obligated to give from an empty basket. Your priority is to fill your own basket with whatever you could ever need and desire. Everyone has their own life to live, and we create that very life every second. The more you ponder over things that you don’t have or truly desire, the more you further yourself into ever receiving it.

The world is yours. Are you that person that constantly thinks about how others may perceive you? Some common thoughts are: Do they like me? Am I talking too much? I hope that insert horrible outcome won’t happen. Aren’t you tired of living like this? Do you really want to waste the best years of your life?

As soon as you start believing in thoughts such as these, you become powerless. You are giving away your power, when this is quintessentially your world. You can choose to live in whatever way you want. You cannot control what other people think about you. You can only control what you think of yourself in relation to the universe around you.

As simple as it sounds to change your belief system, it’s actually quite difficult. The longer you hold onto a negative/destructive belief, the harder it will be to correct it. Nevertheless, life is about changing and evolving into a better version than you are today. You have to do the work. This work is challenging, and it will unpack everything about yourself. The best way to describe this “work” is that it’s an indescribable transformation. When you’re ready to wake up, you have to be willing to do the work. I suggest that you take the risk, because what do you truly have to lose?

introspection, Mindfulness, Society, Uncategorized

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Do you realize that you are alive in the greatest time? We are living in one of the best times in history. One day our descendants will look back, and they’ll be amazed at how much we’ve accomplished. As a member of Generation Z, the reality of life seems bleak. We are experiencing: the grave effects of climate change, the rise of Trumps/Bolsanoros/Jinpings/Dutertes, and an ever-widening wealth disparity. There appears to be no hope.

We can all agree that the days of our parents and grandparents are over. Student loan debt, fleeting job market, evolving pathogens, etc… It’s not surprising that depression and anxiety are common amongst people. This world has a way of making you forget who you are, or why you are alive. Maybe there’s some “toxin” in the air or food. However, I’m here to tell you that we have the power to course-correct.

The future is ours. We have at our disposal a vast amount of: knowledge, technology, time, and energy. How are you using yours? No two minds think alike. We are at the edge of life as we know it. Abundance, creativity, and expansion are all characteristics of our universe. One day you’ll wake up with a new mentality, or a different outlook. Life won’t seem scary. It will feel like you belong, because you are here to do something of significance. The post title is so that whomever reads this can finally see themselves as the author of their own story. There is much more to be written.

introspection, Mindfulness, Society

Moving On and Letting Go

Life lesson: Stop holding onto people who don’t want to be a part of your life, or treat you like garbage. If someone is toxic to your wellbeing, why would you cling to a connection with them? This lesson includes: acquaintances, friends, romantic partners, and family. Toxicity breeds toxicity.

If your intuition is telling you this person is bad news, very often your intuition is correct. Bad treatment is at no fault of yours; however, it does reflect on the psychological health of another person. This is not to say that the person in question is a “bad” person so to speak. It simply means that this person has their own personal issues (or lessons) to work through, and they must work through them alone. You cannot help them.

One of the hardest things to do in life is to fully let someone or something go. The amount of time that you’ve spent on a person or experience means nothing, if it continues to drain you of joy and disrupts your inner peace. This isn’t just a physical detachment, but also a detachment from your psyche. Stop thinking about them, and focus on yourself. Believe it or not, you do have the power to choose your own thoughts.

I notice too often that people of all ages, never fully release certain experiences and people that plague them. Life advice: what is meant for you shall never pass you. If someone or something is meant to be a part of your life, it will be there without any resistance. What is resistance? Resistance is that feeling of doubt, inferiority, or just all around negative energy. Essentially, resistance exhausts you without there being any strenuous physical activity.

The most powerful aspect of detaching from a toxic person or situation is that you have the ability to choose. You can choose to move on. You can choose to let go. You can choose to open your life to people that compliment, and/or add value into your life. You can choose to want better. You can choose to understand that there are much greater things to come. Instead of clinging to that one thing/person, you can choose to trust in the process of life. There is not just one single, defining moment in your life, there are many. People who never fully move on and let go, do not grow into the greatest and best versions of themselves.

Dreams, introspection, Society

The Black Abyss

The phone clicks off, my TV is black, and my laptop sits closed. I stare down at my hands. I am here again. It’s a place that’s dark, and I don’t like it. The darkness drapes over me. It reminds me of: something that I don’t want to see, something I don’t want to feel, something I fear, and something unknown.

Have you ever had a dream where you’re alone walking in the middle of pitch blackness? Or there’s a pitch black room or space of which you are terrified to walk inside? That darkness represents the part of yourself that needs to be brought to light. It is the unexplored terrain. Some Freudians like to call it the subconscious, or Jungians refer to it as the shadow self. The beauty of this dream is that you cannot visibly see anything. Essentially, your mind is alluding to the fact that what you experience in that moment of your dream is something within your unconscious mind.

Most people go their whole lives without ever truly uncovering or exploring who they are. I think that most people have a fear of the dark. The dark is the unknown, and ignorance leads to fear. The universe has a very dark sense of humor; ultimately, you cannot run away from yourself. She’ll drag you through hell and back, until you notice parts of your hidden personality. You can run thousands of miles away from home, and She’ll bring the darkness.

When you think about Plato’s allegorical cave, your perception leads you to believe that light is the truth. However, what this story doesn’t teach is that the light has to come from somewhere. The light has to illuminate the cave. The light uncovers truth, because the darkness is where it begins. The dark cave appears to be symbolic of ignorance and manipulation, but we’ve been deceived.

The most important things that anyone can ever learn are inside that cave. Darkness preludes light. The darkness are those aspects of yourself that you try to hide, but they don’t ever truly disappear.

All rights due to Oussama Zouaimia

Once you have traveled to the furthest and deepest part of the cave, light is simply an instrument to be used. Chasing light is irresponsible. Living a life of light is ignoring everything that you were meant to uncover. Some readers may stop reading at this point, but know that I was once closed off to the idea of a shadow self. I shunned it. I shamed it. I fled from it. I didn’t want to believe that my existence is also contained within a dark essence. The “left-brain-me” blocked my knowledge of understanding true personhood. I was shunning parts of myself. I was attempting to live life by choosing those things that appeared to be truth and goodness. But like I said, the Universe has dark humor.

She will continue bringing you a lesson, until you finally decide to look within yourself and do the work that is needed. The work that needs to be done is in a confined and extremely dim lit space. Once you find it, you grasp a hold of it. Then you pull and pull and pull; sometimes the string seems never ending. Finally, you pull it far enough to where it reaches the light. Then, and only then, do you see it for what it truly is.

Society is fixated on light. It fosters an idea that light is the pinnacle of all existence. I implore you to face that which you fear the most, and try to accept all parts of yourself. Some of what you will find should be purged and destroyed, and others will be some of the best parts about yourself.