introspection, Mindfulness, Society

Moving On and Letting Go

Life lesson: Stop holding onto people who don’t want to be a part of your life, or treat you like garbage. If someone is toxic to your wellbeing, why would you cling to a connection with them? This lesson includes: acquaintances, friends, romantic partners, and family. Toxicity breeds toxicity.

If your intuition is telling you this person is bad news, very often your intuition is correct. Bad treatment is at no fault of yours; however, it does reflect on the psychological health of another person. This is not to say that the person in question is a “bad” person so to speak. It simply means that this person has their own personal issues (or lessons) to work through, and they must work through them alone. You cannot help them.

One of the hardest things to do in life is to fully let someone or something go. The amount of time that you’ve spent on a person or experience means nothing, if it continues to drain you of joy and disrupts your inner peace. This isn’t just a physical detachment, but also a detachment from your psyche. Stop thinking about them, and focus on yourself. Believe it or not, you do have the power to choose your own thoughts.

I notice too often that people of all ages, never fully release certain experiences and people that plague them. Life advice: what is meant for you shall never pass you. If someone or something is meant to be a part of your life, it will be there without any resistance. What is resistance? Resistance is that feeling of doubt, inferiority, or just all around negative energy. Essentially, resistance exhausts you without there being any strenuous physical activity.

The most powerful aspect of detaching from a toxic person or situation is that you have the ability to choose. You can choose to move on. You can choose to let go. You can choose to open your life to people that compliment, and/or add value into your life. You can choose to want better. You can choose to understand that there are much greater things to come. Instead of clinging to that one thing/person, you can choose to trust in the process of life. There is not just one single, defining moment in your life, there are many. People who never fully move on and let go, do not grow into the greatest and best versions of themselves.

Dreams, introspection, Society

The Black Abyss

The phone clicks off, my TV is black, and my laptop sits closed. I stare down at my hands. I am here again. It’s a place that’s dark, and I don’t like it. The darkness drapes over me. It reminds me of: something that I don’t want to see, something I don’t want to feel, something I fear, and something unknown.

Have you ever had a dream where you’re alone walking in the middle of pitch blackness? Or there’s a pitch black room or space of which you are terrified to walk inside? That darkness represents the part of yourself that needs to be brought to light. It is the unexplored terrain. Some Freudians like to call it the subconscious, or Jungians refer to it as the shadow self. The beauty of this dream is that you cannot visibly see anything. Essentially, your mind is alluding to the fact that what you experience in that moment of your dream is something within your unconscious mind.

Most people go their whole lives without ever truly uncovering or exploring who they are. I think that most people have a fear of the dark. The dark is the unknown, and ignorance leads to fear. The universe has a very dark sense of humor; ultimately, you cannot run away from yourself. She’ll drag you through hell and back, until you notice parts of your hidden personality. You can run thousands of miles away from home, and She’ll bring the darkness.

When you think about Plato’s allegorical cave, your perception leads you to believe that light is the truth. However, what this story doesn’t teach is that the light has to come from somewhere. The light has to illuminate the cave. The light uncovers truth, because the darkness is where it begins. The dark cave appears to be symbolic of ignorance and manipulation, but we’ve been deceived.

The most important things that anyone can ever learn are inside that cave. Darkness preludes light. The darkness are those aspects of yourself that you try to hide, but they don’t ever truly disappear.

All rights due to Oussama Zouaimia

Once you have traveled to the furthest and deepest part of the cave, light is simply an instrument to be used. Chasing light is irresponsible. Living a life of light is ignoring everything that you were meant to uncover. Some readers may stop reading at this point, but know that I was once closed off to the idea of a shadow self. I shunned it. I shamed it. I fled from it. I didn’t want to believe that my existence is also contained within a dark essence. The “left-brain-me” blocked my knowledge of understanding true personhood. I was shunning parts of myself. I was attempting to live life by choosing those things that appeared to be truth and goodness. But like I said, the Universe has dark humor.

She will continue bringing you a lesson, until you finally decide to look within yourself and do the work that is needed. The work that needs to be done is in a confined and extremely dim lit space. Once you find it, you grasp a hold of it. Then you pull and pull and pull; sometimes the string seems never ending. Finally, you pull it far enough to where it reaches the light. Then, and only then, do you see it for what it truly is.

Society is fixated on light. It fosters an idea that light is the pinnacle of all existence. I implore you to face that which you fear the most, and try to accept all parts of yourself. Some of what you will find should be purged and destroyed, and others will be some of the best parts about yourself.

Society

The Gen Z Crisis: Scratching the Surface

Sometimes those closest to us, encourage us into positions in life that do not warrant any happiness nor joy. Not to say they don’t have your best interests at heart, but they are not you. You are unique; you have your own path. Recognizing the overlapping societal and economic issues that persists, I feel like this post will open up more dialogue amongst generations. Word from the wise: if you wish to work for a living, make sure it’s something that you truly feel inspiration to accomplish.

Gen Z’s are faced with a difficult decision. We can either continue the unmitigated life of living in a 9-5 paradigm, or take a leap of faith and discover living in our passions. Unlike our parent’s generation, we have a completely new frontier that is actually a tool: 21st century technology.

Within our early adulthood, we suffer from thoughts of “finding ourselves,” and from there “finding our desires.” A few common questions that arise are: What is my life’s purpose? What is the next step? What do I want to do for the rest of my life?

First:

1. Realize that life is an ever-changing process.

2. You will not be in the same place or position a year from now.

3. Your life is exactly what you make of it.

As a new university graduate, I have experienced this existential crisis. It was the first time where I had a choice. There were so many options. I finally had a chance to truly think about what I wanted to do in life. In all honesty, it scared me to think that maybe I chose the wrong degree path, or maybe I will make a mistake. However, I knew for certain that I didn’t want to regret my life 10 to 20 years from now.

I believe that it’s imperative for people in their early adulthoods to examine what all they want out of life. We rush the next generations along a path because we believe it will bring them financial stability. Do you want a life that is filled with all that you could ever dream of yourself having? Do you want a life that was fully desired and created by you?

First, I implore you dear reader to imagine your life at least ten years from now. Imagine where you live, what you are wearing, what experiences you’ve had, what you look like, etc. Nothing can be too detailed. Once you have pictured the life you want, work from there. What could you possibly do now that will set you on course for this life? What experiences do you want to have?

I encourage you to start now. Wherever you may be, begin imagining the life you desire. Stand in your beliefs, and work diligently until they have been fulfilled. Be prepared for setbacks and obstacles, and know that you will be successful.