introspection, Mindfulness, Society

Moving On and Letting Go

Life lesson: Stop holding onto people who don’t want to be a part of your life, or treat you like garbage. If someone is toxic to your wellbeing, why would you cling to a connection with them? This lesson includes: acquaintances, friends, romantic partners, and family. Toxicity breeds toxicity.

If your intuition is telling you this person is bad news, very often your intuition is correct. Bad treatment is at no fault of yours; however, it does reflect on the psychological health of another person. This is not to say that the person in question is a “bad” person so to speak. It simply means that this person has their own personal issues (or lessons) to work through, and they must work through them alone. You cannot help them.

One of the hardest things to do in life is to fully let someone or something go. The amount of time that you’ve spent on a person or experience means nothing, if it continues to drain you of joy and disrupts your inner peace. This isn’t just a physical detachment, but also a detachment from your psyche. Stop thinking about them, and focus on yourself. Believe it or not, you do have the power to choose your own thoughts.

I notice too often that people of all ages, never fully release certain experiences and people that plague them. Life advice: what is meant for you shall never pass you. If someone or something is meant to be a part of your life, it will be there without any resistance. What is resistance? Resistance is that feeling of doubt, inferiority, or just all around negative energy. Essentially, resistance exhausts you without there being any strenuous physical activity.

The most powerful aspect of detaching from a toxic person or situation is that you have the ability to choose. You can choose to move on. You can choose to let go. You can choose to open your life to people that compliment, and/or add value into your life. You can choose to want better. You can choose to understand that there are much greater things to come. Instead of clinging to that one thing/person, you can choose to trust in the process of life. There is not just one single, defining moment in your life, there are many. People who never fully move on and let go, do not grow into the greatest and best versions of themselves.

Society

The Gen Z Crisis: Scratching the Surface

Sometimes those closest to us, encourage us into positions in life that do not warrant any happiness nor joy. Not to say they don’t have your best interests at heart, but they are not you. You are unique; you have your own path. Recognizing the overlapping societal and economic issues that persists, I feel like this post will open up more dialogue amongst generations. Word from the wise: if you wish to work for a living, make sure it’s something that you truly feel inspiration to accomplish.

Gen Z’s are faced with a difficult decision. We can either continue the unmitigated life of living in a 9-5 paradigm, or take a leap of faith and discover living in our passions. Unlike our parent’s generation, we have a completely new frontier that is actually a tool: 21st century technology.

Within our early adulthood, we suffer from thoughts of “finding ourselves,” and from there “finding our desires.” A few common questions that arise are: What is my life’s purpose? What is the next step? What do I want to do for the rest of my life?

First:

1. Realize that life is an ever-changing process.

2. You will not be in the same place or position a year from now.

3. Your life is exactly what you make of it.

As a new university graduate, I have experienced this existential crisis. It was the first time where I had a choice. There were so many options. I finally had a chance to truly think about what I wanted to do in life. In all honesty, it scared me to think that maybe I chose the wrong degree path, or maybe I will make a mistake. However, I knew for certain that I didn’t want to regret my life 10 to 20 years from now.

I believe that it’s imperative for people in their early adulthoods to examine what all they want out of life. We rush the next generations along a path because we believe it will bring them financial stability. Do you want a life that is filled with all that you could ever dream of yourself having? Do you want a life that was fully desired and created by you?

First, I implore you dear reader to imagine your life at least ten years from now. Imagine where you live, what you are wearing, what experiences you’ve had, what you look like, etc. Nothing can be too detailed. Once you have pictured the life you want, work from there. What could you possibly do now that will set you on course for this life? What experiences do you want to have?

I encourage you to start now. Wherever you may be, begin imagining the life you desire. Stand in your beliefs, and work diligently until they have been fulfilled. Be prepared for setbacks and obstacles, and know that you will be successful.